re: #256 ProLifeLiberal

Well, she’s just friends with him now, but she spends alot of time with him. At the same time, I want to make sure my friend is happy. Friend comes first, I’m secondary.

I get that you struggle with this kind of social reading shit but I’ll let you in on a little secret, most young guys do. The whole “nice guys finish last” clich is the result of a near universal learning curve. You don’t have to turn off the part that cares about the friendship, but you should realize that a friendship dependent on you constantly holding back and not expressing your true feelings is based on a kind of fraud. Everyone’s afraid of rejection, but it’s better than being a coward. Far better. Even if she says no it doesn’t mean the friendship has to die, though it’s imperative to then keep some serious space for awhile to make it clear you got the message … let her call you, etc.