re: #391 kirkspencer

In a minor digression, I would like to note that the non-apology that offends me the most is “Sorry you feel that way.”

See, it disguises itself as an apology - there’s that word, sorry, which is used to convey apology or sympathy. Yet neither is actually intended. Instead there is, at best, grief that the other person does not agree with you. The tone of voice usually heard when it is used actually leads to it being a null if not a substitute for an epithet.

For me, it beats out (barely) the southernism, “bless your (or his or her) heart.” Both are almost always code, meant to make it unseemly to react to the insult or attack it accompanies. They are the pro forma indicators of a passive aggressive statement.

I live in the south and I have been given the “bless your heart” so that’s not my intent. You believe because I choose not to become a political activist against abortion I lack empathy. I truly am sorry that is what you believe. No offense intended in my “non apology”