re: #76 SanFranciscoZionist

Before she passed, he told me that he knew my instinct would be to cuddle and commiserate, and try to get into his emotions. He told me not to. I’m trying hard.

That’s classic Man Woman stuff. It’s OK, everybody deals in their own way. I didn’t cry very much after my dad passed but got very emotional at my sister’s wedding several months later.

When and how it comes we don’t choose, the important thing is to let it happen if and when, don’t try to make it happen or stop it from happening.

You might try to let him off chores for a few weeks and encourage extra beer drinking. It won’t help with his grieving but it will be much appreciated!